Why Modesty?

by Rosemary Lozier, BRM Staff

Eve had it, Bathsheba had it, and Delilah certainly had it. I’m talking about the ability that women have to use, or misuse, our God-given trait of persuasion. As Christian women, we have a responsibility to set a godly example before others, especially younger women and girls.

Much has been said about teenage girls and how they dress. Who is instructing them on this subject? Who is influencing them? Is it the world, or are they learning it at home? Are they dressing appropriately or are they dressing according to their friends’ standards? These questions are not meant to bash parents or to lay blame. We all know that sometimes, even though children may come from a Godly home with wonderful Christian parents, a child (especially in the teen years) may decide that he or she would rather follow the influence of this world.

Perhaps, as mentors and parents we could ask ourselves if we are doing all we can to set a good example to the young people in our church. The Bible instructs “older women to be reverent in the way they live” so they can train the younger women to “be self controlled and pure” (Titus 2:3-5).

And it’s not just women and girls, the Bible also speaks to older men about setting an honorable example to the younger men and boys:

Teach the older men to be temperate, worthy of respect, self-controlled, and sound in faith, in love and in endurance. Similarly, encourage the young men to be self-controlled (Titus 2:2, 6).

Young men, don’t allow yourself to be in a situation where you might give in to temptation and get caught up in something that you will regret  – and that could change – the entire rest of your life. God speaks of this in His Holy Word as a warning in the book of Judges, chapters 16 to 18. Samson was a handsome man blessed by God with extraordinary strength. Yet he was completely overtaken by Delilah’s seductive beauty. Sadly, this cost Samson everything – his strength, his eyesight, his freedom and ultimately, his life.

This may sound extreme, but you – young women and young men –may think a thing like how you dress or how you speak isn’t that big of a deal. A small inconsequential thing. But seemingly small things – like lust – can have big consequences. Besides, everything we do as professing Christians is important because it sets the tone for our testimony. If we profess to follow Jesus, then what we do and even what we wear should honor God (Colossians 3:17).

So, to all young people (and adults), the next time you are getting ready for the day, whether going to church, shopping, or just hanging out with your friends, think about what message you will be sending in the way you dress or how you speak. Will others see Christ honored through you, or will they see you displaying and promoting yourself? I leave you with this:

Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think. Then you will know what God wants you to do, and you will know how good and pleasing and perfect His will really is. (Romans 12:2).